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this isn't you... it's your conditioning

YOU LEARNED TO THRIVE IN CHAOS

Deadlines. Crisis mode. Twelve plates spinning and you still answer the group text.

But when it gets quiet, your system panics.

So you scroll. You snack. You clean. You plan.

Anything to avoid the stillness that feels like danger.

YOU SAY YOU WANT SUPPORT... BUT RECEIVING IT FEELS LIKE EXPOSURE

Letting someone in feels risky. It feels faster, easier, and more efficient to just do it all yourself. So you carry it all. Smile through it. Then quietly resent that no one’s helping.

You want to feel held but you’ve only ever felt safe when you’re in control.

YOU DON'T OVERTHINK BECAUSE YOU ARE INDECISIVE. YOU OVERTHINK BECAUSE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM DOESN'T HAVE ENOUGH SELF TRUST 

You ask for advice. Then question yourself anyway.

You rehearse, replay, re-analyze.

Then shame yourself for not trusting your gut. (Even though it’s been right all along.)

AND AS A MOM...

You love them so much it hurts.

But you’re overstimulated, under-supported, and one more "mmmooooommmmm" away from snapping.

Then comes the guilt like clockwork. You don’t need another parenting hack. You need to break the shame and guilt cycle and have a nervous system that feels safe to soften.